Being a hard/bad teacher
I realized that I am not very good at teaching poi for some people. If somebody is very driven I can teach them very easily but I noticed when teaching my girlfriend that she doesn't respond to the way I teach very well most of the time. She gets discouraged easily and isn't good at taking alot of criticism. She doesn't get mad at being criticized but it kind of gets her down when I over-do it. Which I don't really mean to do but thats how I teach myself. If I really enjoy doing something then I try to be the best I can at it. Most people are like that toward one thing or another. The reslut being that you push yourself toward your goals. I realized the other day that I try to teach her by vocalizing the way I teach my self and it just doesn't work for her. She knows that I love watching her spin and that shes come really far since we first started dating but still being so critical makes her forget that sometimes. Being a hard teacher can be good sometimes but I have been trying to be a little less critical. I think some of it might also be the fact that we are still very far apart in terms of skill but I also have been spinning for way longer then her and put in alot mroe time. I think it will be good when we can get to meet up with some other people who spin and seh can spin with people who are learning the same things shes working on now.
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Being a hard/bad teacher
seeing as noones replied to your post....
criticism should be removed as far as possible from any teaching process. if shes not getting it, maybe its the way you explain stuff. just like you said, what works for some people doesent work for others. being a student of any dicipline and not being able to progress as fast as you want to can be hugely fustrating, so a lot depends on the student as well.
i disagree with you on one point. being a hard teacher is never good because it means you dont know how to teach. you should never have to be hard with your students because you should never give them something they cant handle. tailoring expalnations is a real skill, and even more so when dealing with a group.
my rules are these; first instruct with no poi, then demonstrate with poi. then give them poi, and whatever they do, tell them its great/along the right lines, and then point out whats preventing them from doing the move or what they could change. i never say 'what youre doing wrong is' and i never say 'you need to stop doing x'. then i generally tell them they are 80% there and just need to practice...... and it seems to work. often people are befoxed by things and feel that they cant do it, and when they fail a few times, it makes them feel negative.
i remember teaching my ex, and she could learn really quickly with heaps of praise, and the feeling that howver bad things were, they were getting better. anyway, criticism is ok, as long as its constructive. and that often involoves you lying through your teeth about how good you feel someone is, and making them feel good about themselves instead. get them to compare how good they were a week or month ago, and what they can do now, and make them feel they are progressing. works wonders.
point out they are better than you at some things, again building confidence. just generally make them feel good about what they are doing.
and teaching your missus is always tricky....